Define your goal and set a date

If you want to progress in life, it’s very important to set yourself goals, because only then you can achieve them. Otherwise, your life will be determined by the goals of others. Set the bar just as high as you think possible, because in the end the desired result will be achieved all the faster. If you’ve set yourself a very big goal, it’s best to set some intermediate goals as well. The following tips will help you with this.

1. Using your problem to define your goal

This is a helpful step as it’s much easier to think about what’s bothering you than to know right away what you want to achieve. Ask yourself the following questions and make notes on each one.

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2. Using your envy to define your goal

Envy is a prime indicator of knowing what you really want. But be careful, use any form of envy only as a push to get to the desired goal faster!

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3. Temporary definition with 8 criteria check

Try to define your goal now and check it with the 8 questions below. Click on the (+) for more information 🙂 If you can answer all of them with “Yes”, then copy your temporary defintion into the final definition at the bottom. If there are still one or two “No’s”, adjust it accordingly until you are satisfied with the definition. Take your time! You can also adjust it over the next few days.

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Is my goal definition positive?

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “do NOT think of a pink elephant.” What do we do? We think of a pink elephant! It’s the same with other statements. Instead of saying “I don’t want to be sick” it’s better to say “I want to be healthy”, or even better “I’m healthy” (see next point). Otherwise, your brain automatically creates a connection to illness and your emotional reaction leads to the exact the opposite as you act out of fear and not out of joy.
A positive goal definition also creates a positive image in your mind, leading to completely different ideas on how to achieve it.

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Is my goal definition in the present and strongly worded?

This means that you should avoid subjunctive or future tense sentences, because it’ll delay achieving your goal. Sentences with “would have, would be…” or “I will… create” or “I would like…” weaken your goal and the meaning you give it. It’s best to definite it as if it’s happening in the present. For example, to stay with health, “I’m healthy and can sleep through the night and have energy to exercise…”

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Is my goal definition specific enough?

The more specific you’re about what you want, the easier it’ll be to take the steps to get there. Instead of just saying “I want to be healthy”, describe exactly what being healthy means to you. Phrasing aids: “For me, being healthy means …”, “I am healthy and can sleep through the night and go to the gym three times a week with my partner”. Write concrete numbers, dates, names, etc.

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Am I able to get started with it right away?

You’re able to start immediately and can physically and mentally do something to achieve the goal? Then on your marks, get set, go!

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Does the goal definition motivate me to take the first step?

You are ready and motivated to take the first step towards your goal. If not, take a look at your inner motives and ask yourself whether one of them could use a little more power. Attention – if you have no more motivation and energy due to exhaustion, it’s best to get help of an expert.

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Am I looking forward to taking the steps towards my goal?

The more fun and anticipation you have in taking the necessary steps towards your goal, the easier it’ll be to achieve it. Otherwise, it could become exhausting and tedious, which could make you give up too quickly.

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Do I believe that I can achieve the goal?

If you notice that an inner insecurity or doubt when defining your goal, then listen carefully to yourself. “Yes, but…” or “I don’t think I can do it because…” or “I’m afraid to take the steps toward the goal because, for example, I might hurt or lose someone…” are mental blocks that can prevent you from achieving the goal. The “Conquer Fears” or “Personal Beliefs” exercise can help you with this.

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Do I have enough perseverance?

Successful people all have one thing in common – they don’t give up, even if they fail or things get difficult. Those who don’t achieve their goals usually only do what comes easy to them. They give up too quickly when things get challenging. If you only do the same thing over and over, you’ll always get the same result. If you’re leaning more towards “No”, take a look at the points above to see if one might be the reason.

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4. Set the appropriate date for your goal

We often set the date for our goal by when we want to achieve it. Usually, this date is in the past we would have preferred to have reached it already, which can only lead to frustration. That’s why we recommend that you think about “Have to” and “Able to” in addition to “Want to” to set a suitable date. You can then enter the date using the button below. So, ask yourself:

When do I WANT TO achieve it?

Be completely honest about whether it’s you who wants to achieve it or someone else? The more you want it, the better.

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When do I HAVE TO achieve it?

Is there a reason you have to achieve your goal within a certain time? For example, because otherwise the money will run out? When there’s no need at all, it might be easier to give up, but it can also bring relief to know that you actually don’t have to achieve it. Attention – the need can also be linked to fears or personal beliefs. In this case use our related exercises.

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When am I ABLE TO achieve it?

There are certain criteria for being able to achieve it. For example, are my skills good enough or do I have to learn something first? Does it depend on other people? What is a realistic date? Attention – Is your self worth getting in your way? Then the first step would be to increase it.

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5. Final goal definition

If you’re satisfied with your temporary goal definition, then copy it into this field. Set the date that you chose in point 4. We recommend that you regularly read through the definition and visually and emotionally imagine your dream state. Various studies have shown that goals are achieved more quickly this way. Also, continue with the exercise “Steps to the Goal”.

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